The Bigger Man
I recently got a request from an X-friend on myspace, who wants to be my friend. It isn't hard to find me there especially since I have been using the same handle almost since I started on the internet. However, that isn't the issue... the issue is I have extreme distaste for this person and his whole family, his family has caused nothing but pain to mine and just knowing how these people are, they probably still assume we owe them something when the opposite would be a more accurate explanation. So what's the dilemma? Well at one point this person was a good friend of mine, and we had some good times... He is obviously doing the reaching out, the best way this shit neck knows how. . . would I have rather got an email with some kind words in it - yes - but again I would have to assume he doesn't feel he did anything wrong. So what did he do. . . well this is the question or the dilemma. . . he took something away from me that was the most important thing in my life (no it wasn't a girl). . . I invited him into something that was sacred to me and through manipulation and backstabbing he had me removed - and it became clear later on why - he wanted what I had - he couldn't stand being second fiddle - he never could. . . and I hate him for it. . . Friends do not do that to each other - do they? The thing is, humans make mistakes, they are not infallible, and I have made my fair share and sought forgiveness and still have not received it. So do I ignore the request and act like what some may perceive as a child would, is it really a childish act to disconnect from people that have caused you pain. . . ? the whole situation would be easier to handle if I received some correspondence instead of a simple friend request - but that did not happen - And I am almost certain an apology or even a "sorry about the way things turned out" is not headed my way - most guys don't talk like that - they would assume that the apology is understood from the initial effort - but what was taken from me, in what amounts to a hostile take-over situation, was sacred to me and to date - one of the most if not the most important thing in my life. . .